My Grieving Heart

Grace for a Grieving Heart

Someone once asked me, “Why grace for a grieving heart?” I suppose it was a fair question. Maybe she meant, “Why not comfort for a grieving heart? Or solace for a grieving heart?”

Grace puts the emphasis on God and what He has done for me. God is the only one who offers me true grace no matter what my circumstances. His grace is there for me in the highs and lows of life. His grace is available even when I doubt His love or feel anger toward Him – and I did both when I was in the midst of deep grief. His grace remained constant.

Long after I put up this website and began posting on the blog, I discovered a song by Matt Redman, Your Grace Finds Me. It speaks about how God’s grace finds us wherever we are:

It’s there on a wedding day
There in the weeping by the graveside
There in the very breath we breathe
Your great grace…

There in the darkest night of the soul
There in the sweetest songs of victory
Your grace finds me
Yes your grace finds me

More than any other song, Your Grace Finds Me sums up what I want to say to you. This song explains Grace for a Grieving Heart.

My Grieving Heart

In 2001 my husband, Rick, died unexpectedly, leaving me with three children. The oldest was 18 and the youngest, 8. I began journaling through my grief—raw, in‑the‑moment entries that stretched over the next several years. These entries were only for me. But in time I began to see how they could help others on the journey of grief, and the friends who came alongside them. I gathered them into a book, Grace for a Grieving Heart, a unique combination of memoir and devotional.

What Others are saying about Grace for a Grieving Heart

“I can identify with EVERYTHING you are talking about, and I don’t feel so alone.” —BR

“It has been a hard day for me but reading your words has helped. Thank you. I lost my husband in less than three hours. I appreciate that you have written this and are willing to share it.”—LH

“The book was so beautifully written and so personal for me. It showed me I too could make it through my difficult loss. I found answers to many questions I had in your writing.”—CF

“Anyone who has wrestled with husband, wife, or child during episodes of deep and desperate depression will want to walk through the ‘valley of the shadow of death’ with Sandy Sheppard.”—DJ

“This is not just one more book on the particularly devastating grief people experience by a loved-one’s suicide. It is deeply personal and wrenchingly honest without seeking self pity or offering simplistic platitudes. I only wish it had been available during my own days of pastoral care and counseling. I highly recommend it to those who desperately need help; and, of equal importance, those who deeply desire to help.”—DS  

“It was a blessing to me personally, as I have never dealt in depth with the loss of my own dad when I was just turning 20…As a chaplain, I’ve done several services where situations were similar to yours. Reading your book has given me some much needed insights, and a stronger sense of compassion. Thanks again for putting these very personal thoughts and experiences together.”—DB

I am currently seeking a publisher for Grace for a Grieving Heart.